How to Be Awesome Part 5: Avoid the Comparison Trap


Well hello my awesome friends. I wonder if you can tell how much thought and time I put into these little How to Be Awesome videos?! I hope it shows through! I don’t just sit down and chat, I honestly think about them FOR WEEKS! Especially with this one! I’ve been thinking about this topic, the topic of comparing ourselves with others for a while now. Months probably. And the other day I was listening to podcast and someone mentioned “the comparison trap.”

And it just CLICKED. That’s exactly what comparison is!!! It’s A TRAP!!!

So in this episode, which is Part 5 of my How to Be Awesome series I talk about how being awesome means you must: AVOID THE COMPARISON TRAP!

Comparing yourself to others can do a lot of detrimental things, but I identified 3 things I’ve seen it do in my own life and that’s what I talk about in the video. So I hope you find it helpful! And I also wanted to share this conclusion that I come to in the video in a little graphic. And so here it is:


I believe this is true with all my heart! And if you’re interested in hearing why, well then here’s the video! Hooray!

I love you guys so much and hope you have a very happy weekend!

As always I LOVE hearing your thoughts on these!



  1. Oh Alison, you make me so happy. I think that sometimes in the world of blogging comparison is a beast. Just last night I was in tears because I had done a project and planned on posting it. But my pictures didn’t seem good enough nor did my project seem unique enough. But I heard your voice pop in my head saying all sorts of nice things encouraging me. To put myself out there. To keep working on improvements. To have confidence in my own awesome. And then today, with this video! You nailed it, so thank you for that.

    1. That makes me SO happy to hear! Thank you! Yes, blogging is a BITCH! hahaha

  2. HannahF

    I love this!!!! Thanks Alison. I think a lot time I compare myself to others who are in the same field as me or have similar interests. I do, however, interpret that energy into inspiring myself to do better if I want what they have. Or I use it as way to pump myself up by saying, ” you’re (or I’m) doing great things too” BTW: I love your stripes, and where did you get necklace in this video and the Happy ring? Please let me know or do a give-away! Lol. I do compare myself to you a lot, Alison, because I love you so darn much. And I see you doing thing that I’d love to do. So I’ve been keeping up with my Awesome homework so I can be just as fantastic! But in my own special way! Love ya

    1. hahaha the stripe shirt and necklace are from Nordstrom, and I cannot source the happy ring! It’s from a small boutique in Provo, Harmony Boutique I should see if I can order some!! Thank you so much for watching and I love to hear your input! And if you’re comparing yourself to me then keep in mind on Wednesday I was hyperventilating all day and then had to take a xynax. HAHAHA.

  3. Yeah, stop comparing your felt skills to my felt skills! HA! j/k. Good stuff lady!

  4. You rock, this is the best series ever. We all struggle with this.

    1. thank you!

  5. Amy K

    I got all teary because this is so true! I don’t know why we do these things to ourselves but it’s good to know that I’m not alone. Thank you for this series it’s the best thing that ever happened to me on the internet world

  6. Clara

    What wise words! You are spot on. I’m going to be awesome this week & not focus on others strengths & my weaknesses. You have pimped my happy this evening! Thank you! X

  7. Stacey

    AWESOME series! I look forward to your How to be Awesome videos. Whenever someone (myself included) is experiencing the comparison trap, remember that you only see their highlight reel. Know that your highlight reel is pretty freakin’ Awesome (capital A) also.

  8. Kelly

    I just want to hug this video. Seriously, Alison, you’ve created these at a time when I really need to be reminded about my awesomeness and awesome potential. It’s been so hard, but I want to thank you so much!!!

    1. Kelly

      Also, for a month or so now I’ve had a little message, “Comparison is the thief of joy” on my phone home screen, something I see a gazillion times a day, as a way to try and remind myself to stop doing this. I’ve now switched it to “Comparison is the thief of awesome.” 🙂

  9. Stephanie

    So I’ve been following along for a while now, and have always enjoyed your tutorials and whatnot (even though I’m not really a crafter myself). I just like the things you make and the way you write. This series, though, is my favorite thing you’ve done – maybe my favorite thing on all the internets? It’s obvious how much thought you put into what you’re sharing, and you articulate it all really well. Watching/hearing you speak it, rather just reading it, makes me feel more connected, too. Thanks for putting so much awesomeness out there!!

  10. Aww, Alison, we are so much alike. Crazy but also emotional. I wanted to cry right along with you 😉 This is a great talk. I’ve been going through this comparison game lately so thank you. Also mom forums – what a waste of time!

  11. Anna

    I love your series, thank you! Also, would you mind doing a make up tutorial? I liked your lipstick review a while back but am not good at eye make up with bright lipsticks, that would be awesome 😉 thanks again!

    1. That’s a great idea! I’m not awesome at makeup either but I love to partner with people that are!

  12. I love this. This is probably my favorite part of the series so far. I really loved the last part about how comparing makes you ignore your unique gifts. It makes you ignore your own gifts, and it downplays the awesome contribution of others’ unique gifts and talents. I’m trying so hard not to compare, but to celebrate the differences in others/myself.

    I just love you to pieces, and I haven’t even met you. Ha ha ha. Sorry if that’s creepy. 🙂

    1. aw thank you so much!! I’m so glad you found it helpful! I love to way you put this and how it’s about celebrating others! and not creepy AT ALL! xoxox

  13. You are such a powerhouse Alison. I admire you so much for your courage, for putting yourself out there, for never claiming to be perfect, and for always being you. I wish I saw you you more than just through instagram and your blog, because you are a light in my life for sure. You have such a happy personality and I always feel awesome when I’m around you, you just have that effect on people. You are awesome, thanks for sharing these videos!

    1. girl you are so sweet! thank you so much!!

  14. Ok. you are seriously THEE BEST. This is my most favorite so far of your how to be awesome series. I can totally relate, and you just get it… You. Get. It. You are my go-to virtual motivational speaker. You are such a inspiration, and even if I’m just some joe-shmo, a random follower of yours… Just know that I truly appreciate your videos! They really do help me, and get me out of my funk. Xoxo

  15. Hollie

    Oh girl I love you. You are one special kind of awesome. Keep it up sistah.

  16. Thanks for another wonderful pep talk Alison! I always seem to listen to the How to be AWESOME right when I need the reminder. My comparisons tend to result in a freeze. I don’t necessarily get to upset about what others have or are doing. Instead I just stop moving forward with my idea if I see someone else doing anything similar.

    These days I’m feeling pretty lucky, my clients are all coming to me with unique styles and it’s feeding the rest of my creativity!

  17. Tiffany

    Comparison has been the thief of my joy all too often!! I’m getting better at screening it out of my life but it’s a constant practice. I am so much happier and more content with myself when I do. So thanks for this I love it! This morning instead of checking out my cellulite and feeling gross I looked in the mirror and said thank you body for being awesome.

  18. Sabrina

    Just started college and caught myself in the trap of comparing myself to others in every way! Thanks for this! I really needed to see this.

    1. so glad! thank you for watching!

  19. So first off, one of my friends on instagram was doing your IG dance videos and I was really confused because I’m not IG literate. So I looked at her hashtag and then at the blog she referenced and totally recognized you. You were totally in my ward in my freshman year of college in 2004-05. I think you lived with a bunch of girls in the white house on 7th and 7th. I totally remembered you because you one time ended a talk with “thank you” instead of the traditional “inthenameofjesuschrist, amen” and it made my life (not that I’m against the traditional, I just appreciated you).

    Fast forward to today when I’m feeling awful and comparing the heck out of myself to other people in my program (long story short, my BYU degree didn’t yield a job, so I’m back at school. Huzzah!….). Then I stumble upon this and you and something awesome just clicked. I love your philosophy and am SO proud of you and this awesome mission you’re on. Rock it, girl!

    1. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA I remember doing that!!! I mean I would have never remembered it but now that you say that I do. it wasn’t on purpose but still so something I would do! hahaha that is so crazy! Thank you so much! What small funny world! none of us really know what we’re doing, and I think school is ALWAYS a good idea so good for you! thank you so much for saying hi and all your kind words!! haha see ya on the internet!! xo

  20. jennifer

    Hey Alison! You are a ray of sunshine! Keep shining your light! You are awesome! 🙂

  21. Becky

    Ok. You have made my day/week/month/year! I’m so glad I found you on Instagram! (And I can’t even remember how I came upon your feed! Mom brain.) I watched your “How to be Awesome” series with my 14 year old daughter and we loved it! I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again, I think we were separated at birth. Although, I’m not building up an awesome empire quite yet, but I’m doing my best! Thank you for sharing your vlog! You have such great points. I’m hoping to share this with a large group of young women in my church. So inspiring, refreshing, touching, candid, and true. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Here’s to being AWESOME!

    1. aw thank you so much!! I appreciate that!!

  22. Kim

    I am new to following your blog and I wanted to tell you I think you’re so great! Thanks for this video. I’ve been comparing myself to others being able to have babies sooner than my husband and I and it totally has destroyed my confidence and zapped my happy. This post definitely has helped me with this struggle and I wanted to thank you! Congrats on your little one too! Children are amazing! 🙂

    1. aw thank you so much! I’m so glad!

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