When I dyed my hair blue, I don’t know, a few years ago, I posted this picture of it the next day on Instagram and said, “I question my ability to make sane decisions.” Or something like that. And someone left a comment on the photo and said, “Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.”
Putting how absurdly annoying I find unsolicited criticism aside, I think about that comment a lot. I mean it’s not an original saying: Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. And sure, it’s good advice sometimes. Like from like standpoint of, just because you can do crack (do you DO, or smoke crack?) it still doesn’t mean you should. And to be fair, I do think about it sometimes more in the context of, just because I can build this whole backdrop for a party, and plan the party, and host the party, doesn’t mean I should. So I try to find some help. And that’s a totally helpful context.
But back to my blue hair. Kind of the whole point of dying your hair blue is doing it just because you CAN.
Today I’m working from bed, not wearing any pants, mostly just because I can. Because more often in life I find it wildly empowering to do things, JUST BECAUSE I CAN.
It’s the same crap I’ve been spouting for 10 years, “I’m an adult and ca do whatever the hell I want.” I need to say it to myself over and over because I easily get bogged down with all the things I think I MUST DO. Sure sure, we shouldn’t walk around being reckless. But I feel like most of the people I’m writing to don’t need encouragement to be safer, to be more responsible, or take on more feelings of “supposed to” or “should.”
So I’m gonna assume, and do all the things assuming does, that you’re more like me, that you’re a decent person, and you’re not looking to light something on fire, you’re just looking to love your life a bit more.
And I think you’ll feel really really good if you let go and do something just because you can. And remember that the daily, menial things we’re doing, like the dishes, or meeting a deadline, or taking off the pants your 8-month-old spit up all over (spit up all the food you took a really long time to put in her belly mind you) are a choice. And I feel so incredibly grateful I have so many choices, even if sometimes I have too many choices, and not enough pants.
I find that usually if I break it down I’m more often than not doing what I want to be doing. Even if it’s something I’m not happy about doing, or is hard in the moment, it’s usually leading to a bigger goal. And if I’m not doing something I really want to be doing, that no one’s fault but my own.
So today I’m doing more things just because I can. Because I’m awesome. And I’m lucky. And if your situation sucks for whatever reason, know I’m sending you so much love, and hope you can still find one thing to do that is yours, because you deserve to feel good.