I’m adult and can do whatever the hell I want.

I’m adult and can do whatever the hell I want.
August 10, 2016 Alison Faulkner

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When I dyed my hair blue, I don’t know, a few years ago, I posted this picture of it the next day on Instagram and said, “I question my ability to make sane decisions.” Or something like that. And someone left a comment on the photo and said, “Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.”

Putting how absurdly annoying I find unsolicited criticism aside, I think about that comment a lot. I mean it’s not an original saying: Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. And sure, it’s good advice sometimes. Like from like standpoint of, just because you can do crack (do you DO, or smoke crack?) it still doesn’t mean you should. And to be fair, I do think about it sometimes more in the context of, just because I can build this whole backdrop for a party, and plan the party, and host the party, doesn’t mean I should. So I try to find some help. And that’s a totally helpful context.

But back to my blue hair. Kind of the whole point of dying your hair blue is doing it just because you CAN.

Today I’m working from bed, not wearing any pants, mostly just because I can. Because more often in life I find it wildly empowering to do things, JUST BECAUSE I CAN.

It’s the same crap I’ve been spouting for 10 years, “I’m an adult and ca do whatever the hell I want.” I need to say it to myself over and over because I easily get bogged down with all the things I think I MUST DO. Sure sure, we shouldn’t walk around being reckless. But I feel like most of the people I’m writing to don’t need encouragement to be safer, to be more responsible, or take on more feelings of “supposed to” or “should.”

So I’m gonna assume, and do all the things assuming does, that you’re more like me, that you’re a decent person, and you’re not looking to light something on fire, you’re just looking to love your life a bit more.

And I think you’ll feel really really good if you let go and do something just because you can. And remember that the daily, menial things we’re doing, like the dishes, or meeting a deadline, or taking off the pants your 8-month-old spit up all over (spit up all the food you took a really long time to put in her belly mind you) are a choice. And I feel so incredibly grateful I have so many choices, even if sometimes I have too many choices, and not enough pants.

I find that usually if I break it down I’m more often than not doing what I want to be doing. Even if it’s something I’m not happy about doing, or is hard in the moment, it’s usually leading to a bigger goal. And if I’m not doing something I really want to be doing, that no one’s fault but my own.

So today I’m doing more things just because I can. Because I’m awesome. And I’m lucky. And if your situation sucks for whatever reason, know I’m sending you so much love, and hope you can still find one thing to do that is yours, because you deserve to feel good.

Booty smack,
Alison

9 Comments

  1. Valerija 8 months ago

    Oh, I love this entry so much!

  2. Ashley P 7 months ago

    I stinkin’ love this!!! Thank you.

    P.S. Unsolicited compliment: You ROCKED that blue hair!

  3. Elle 7 months ago

    I think people who spout that comment lack the courage to act on their own feelings and are intimidated by those of us who have it. Confidence is the most beautiful thing a woman can wear. And blue hair = lots of confidence!!

  4. Aurelie | Surface85 7 months ago

    Well said! I think as long as you respect yourself and others and are responsible you can do anything that please you. I actually don’t understand why people even care about some else hair colour! We are lucky to enjoy a lot of freedom and it’s not the case for a lot of people in this world so just for that I want to do things because I can.

    xx
    Aurelie | http://www.surface85.com

  5. Ina 7 months ago

    I saw this awesome video recently about a 67 year old man that bought a pair of distressed jeans and he was worried that he is too old. But then he decided Screw It. He owes it to everyone that’s passed on to live his life to the fullest and not be limited by other people’s opinions. I liked that idea very much.

  6. Sarah 6 months ago

    I only have your opening paragraph as a point of reference, but I read the comment completely different. Paraphrasing: You questioned whether or not it was sane to color your hair blue and the commenter was saying “just because you can [make sane decisions], doesn’t mean you should. ” I could be completely wrong, but it felt like support for making fun and “crazy” choices about your hair, your life, etc… just a thought.

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      Alison Faulkner 6 months ago

      Hey! That’s such a good way to look at it! And also another reason why we can’t take too much stock in social media anything because context and tone can always be misconstrued!

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