The Top 10 Things I Learned in 2014

The Top 10 Things I Learned in 2014
January 4, 2015 Alison Faulkner

10in14-alison(photo by Matt Clayton, look how serious I am)

I sat down a few nights ago to write the Top 10 Things I learned in 2014, and instead I wrote three straight pages about the nervous breakdown I had in 2014. Like full on, legit nervous breakdown. For fun!

I think it was good to get it all out but instead of just posting it, I decided to sit on it for a bit. I came to the conclusion that I honestly don’t mind sharing it with you; it’s just that I don’t think I feel like sharing right at this minute.

My inability to not over-share is essentially why I changed my blog (about 4 years ago) from an essay-like blog, to one that was more about crafts and DIYs and parties. But as I mentioned before, I want to get back to writing about whatever I want!

But I have a hard time drawing the line. If I’m going to share with you, I feel like I owe it to you to share EVERY LAST DAMN DETAIL.

But I don’t. I just don’t.

I love you, and I appreciate that you’re here, so don’t take this personally, but other than good content and genuineness, I don’t owe you anything.

And that brings me to

The Top 10 Things I learned in 2014:

1. You don’t owe anybody anything—except love.

Other than being a good person, there isn’t some huge debt we owe everyone. I can love you and not share every last detail of my life with you. This might sound insane to you, and you might be like, “DUH.” But if you’re like me at all, sharing is how I show love. So it just makes sense, that if I love you, or want to show you I care, I’ll just give and give and give until I’m literally left with nothing—except my aforementioned nervous breakdown.

This realization is one I’m still trying to fully grasp. Showing gratitude, and love, and generally being a decent human, is different than feeling like you’re in everyone’s debt.

I first started to kind of comprehend it when I had to figure out what to do about my insane amount of emails. Most of them were offering free product in exchange for “shout outs” on Instagram.

As my social media following grew, I got more and more offers for free stuff. These offers usually come with flattery, some false, some super sincere, but either way, I started to feel like I owed it to everyone to promote their stuff or at least personally respond to their email! After all, they were being so nice! Offering me free stuff!

BUT, as the emails and offers poured in, I realized I was spending my few precious work hours responding to these offers, or organizing them, or fulfilling them, instead of creating content, or working on things that fulfilled me or built my brand. So I wasn’t making money, and I wasn’t growing—professionally or personally. I was allowing a small minority of people to dominate the majority of my work time.

I felt so indebted to AN EMAIL, that I wasn’t completing goals, and I was spending time AWAY from my children for what? A free t-shirt? A purse? A necklace?

So by necessity, I had to start to let go of the idea that I owed everyone something. This sounds like the epitome of a “first world problem” and it is, but it was still eating me alive.

Listening to some business podcasts and reading some entrepreneur books really helped me see that I was allowing other people decide how I spent my time.

I realized: I do not owe anybody anything! Except of course love. Cause you know I believe in love.

Perhaps you’re not allowing emails to take over your time, but I bet if you think about it you’re possibly trying to pay off some debt to SOMEONE, that you simply don’t owe! It’s a huge relief when you realize you can let it go.

The email problem also helped me learn lesson #2.

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(photo by Becky Kimball from Ginger’s Unicorn Parade )

2. Hire it out!

Why oh why do we feel like we have to DO IT ALL?

My business grew insane amounts in 2014, and the lessons I learned from that all crossover into my regular life—mostly because my life is my business? Oh help! Maybe it’s easier for me to handle these lessons when I’m learning them for the “business” haha instead of just thinking about them for myself.

Anyway, apparently a lot of entrepreneurs suffer from a “superman” complex thinking that they, and only they alone, can do everything for their business.

Um by entrepreneurs do they mean MOMS? Sound like anyone you know?

I was super embarrassed to hire a cleaning lady. Also I was PRETTY sure I didn’t have enough money for a cleaning lady. And it seemed downright irresponsible to hire one before we had health insurance.

SILLY ALISON. Hiring Ana was one of my best decisions in 2014. I suck at cleaning, but I’m AWESOME at working. If I clean less I get to work more! Ana and I love each other and I cry sometimes thanking her, and she cries thanking me, because she loves having her work appreciated and valued, and we don’t even speak the same language.

I think it’s a pride thing, or a money thing, that keeps us thinking we have to do it all. After Eric lost his job we had literally no money, so I know sometimes we truly can’t afford things. But I also think money is kind of relative. I just decided I could afford the help, and I figured out a way to pay for it. AND we got health insurance, unrelated but exciting.

Which brings me to lesson #3.

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(my most amazing executive assistant Carla showing her emoji pride at the Feelings Fest / pic by Trevor Christensen

3. You have a lot more control over your life than you think.

In fact, you have almost all the control over your life. HA! I got really into affirmations—repeating positive phrases over and over, in 2014. Thoughts become actions, actions become reality.

As my workload and stress mounted, I knew that I needed both an executive assistant AND a cleaning lady. Greedy greedy Alison. But again, I had no idea how I’d pay for them.

I decided that I would just find them, and hire them, and then take it paycheck by paycheck.

Hiring Carla, my amazing executive assistant helped me SO much with my email problem, and also allowed me to grow the business creatively as she held down the fort logistically.

For months I ran around feeling out of control, and lesson #2: HIRE IT OUT, helped me realize lessons #3: I’m actually the one driving this crazy train. You have more control over your life than you think.

thealisonshow-welcomehome(even though I’m more about laying on tables than I am laying on couches / pic by Jessica Kettle)

4. Therapy is awesome.

WAIT! I said I wasn’t going to talk about my nervous breakdown! Well I won’t get into it too much. But for the first time in my life I went to counseling. This started a couple months ago, and it’s just like, I’m so annoyed I didn’t go earlier.

Going to counseling and accepting that help was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. But you know what it’s way easier than? The three months of HELL and torture I let myself live in leading up to it.

Let’s put it like this, if you’ve tried everything you can on your own, books, exercise, diet, check-lists, talking to friends, and you’re still unable to live your live like you want to be living it then get help. Because #5

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5. Nothing is more important than your physical and mental health.

Like I said, 2014 was wild. For me it was basically, take care of kids, work, cry hysterically, panic attack, pull it together, dance, take care of kids, dance, work, work, work, panic attack…repeat, repeat, repeat.

I stopped exercising, sleeping, and eating regular food. And it led to months of anxiety and my body shutting down.

SURE I got lots done, SURE I made more money than I’ve ever made, SURE I had some fun…as long as I never stopped moving I was fine. But it’s impossible to never stop moving (I’ve learned) and I was kind of killing myself. Dramatic but true. Anyway, this year, nothing is more important than my physical and mental health. So if I unexpectedly stop everything, you’ll know why!

6. We all have the ability to be angels.

Hahaha I’m like so insane I know. Bouncing all over the place. But in some really desperate times in 2014 I’d get a phone call, or a knock at the door. It was friends being angels coming to my aid.

One day, at my daughter’s preschool fieldtrip, I was upset because I felt like I was doing everything wrong. The kids were playing, and I was talking to my friend and I started sobbing uncontrollably. Can you even handle how embarrassing that is? Like we are at pumpkin patch, the kids are climbing hay bales and I’m snot dripping, convulsing Kim Kardashian ugly crying—in front all the other parents?

The filed trip was about done and my friend, who I was sobbing to, went over to my car, grabbed Ginger’s car seat, put it in her car, and took Ginger for the afternoon, even though I was insisting, through my tears that I was, “FINE!” And she “didn’t need to!”

We can all be angels in each other’s lives by small and simple acts. So whenever you’re feeling worthless just shut the hell up, you’re an angel to someone. Probably to me.

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7. Invest in people who invest in you.

This was part 6 of my How to Be Awesome series and it went viral on the Internets. I think that happened because at any given point in time EVERYONE is investing energy and thought in people who just don’t deserve it OR who don’t need it YET.

I’ve had to say, “Invest in people who invest in you.” to myself over and over this year. It hurts my feelings when people I know in real life don’t follow me on IG or don’t want to come to my parties. Hahaha. I’m beyond embarrassed admitting that. Because it’s such a stupid thing. But sometimes I’ll notice that old college friends, who I love, and want to stay in touch with, aren’t following me, and I get super sad. I decide they must think I’m annoying, and that they think everything I’m doing is dumb. I feel incredibly self-conscious and conclude everyone secretly thinks I’m a huge idiot. When what their not following me really means is…they aren’t following me. Hahaha. Social media is my job, but to most people it’s just social media! And that can be hard to remember. Also they might think I’m an idiot, but it doesn’t do me any good trying to change that.

I can be sad and upset all day over the offers I don’t get, the friends I don’t have, the people I feel like aren’t supporting me.

But when I do that it means I’m investing in people who aren’t investing in me, and worse it means I’m not being grateful for the people WHO are investing in me. Like you, right here, reading this absurdly long post. I appreciate it. Thank you. Almost every day I have to remind myself to choose to invest my energy in you, and not in people whom I don’t happen to resonate with or who don’t need me as an online friend.

8. Doing is different than being.

This is something my counselor helped me see. It’s so easy to define ourselves by what we do. In fact, it’s super hard NOT to define yourself by what you do.

But if you are what you do, than who are you when you’re not doing it?

I’ve had to take time to try to remember who I am, when I’m not throwing a party, making a video, speaking at a conference, putting myself out there for people online. Who am I when I’m just sitting still?

In order to do this I’ve had to sit still a bit more. And holy hell that’s hard for me. But has been so insanely helpful.

My passions became my job, my hobbies became my work—this was the goal! I did it! But then…what is left for Alison, just Alison?

I think as parents this happens a ton. We define ourselves by our role as mom, or dad, and then forget who we were before that.

Doing is different than being. I’m going to spend more of 2015 trying to BE who I want to be instead of DOING all the things I want to do.

9. Write it down.

At the beginning of 2014 I wrote down a goal. Then I wrote down why I wanted to achieve this goal, and how I’d do it, and why I deserved to achieve it. I re-read this goal to myself about once a month. And I basically achieved it. Not 100% but more than I ever thought could be possible. I plugged my friend Susan Petersen’s Goal Writing Class on Instagram, and I’m going to do it again right now. You should seriously check it out. My dad, my other entrepreneur role model and mentor always quotes the idiom, “A goal not written is only a wish, if it’s to be it’s up to me.”

But I also relearned about the power of writing down our thoughts and feelings. I talked about it a bit more in this post. But because I’m all about mental health in 2015, I want to write more on the blog or at least more for myself.

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10. You can be anything you want to be, but sometimes it’s better to just be who you are.

I thought The Alison Show was going to be something entirely different than what it is. When I finally let go of the idea of what I thought it was going to be, and embraced what it is, well, that’s when things started really working out.

I’m still trying to figure out what it is that I’m supposed to do in this world. And I change my mind all the time.

I kept feeling like I had to define it for you. I had to declare, “I’m the DIY girl!” or No, no, now I’m the, “Party girl!” Oh wait, no, now I’m the “How to Be Awesome girl!” Or the “Cookie girl!” But see, I’ve come full circle. I knew in my heart what I was doing when I named this whole endeavor, that it’s simply, and nothing more than The Alison Show. It’s just me, sharing what I do, what I love, and what I’ve learned.

I really believe that we can be anything or anybody we want to be. But overall, I think it’s best to be who you are.

I can say with assurance as I embrace who I am and what I am at my core, and as I accept what my actual abilities are rather than what my perceived abilities are, well that’s when I’m most at peace and the most successful.

Here’s to 2015 friends. To being who we are, to doing what you want, and to loving yourself while you do it.

Thanks for letting me share. It feels good to write it all out. What did you learn in 2014? Any similarities?

I love you all!

Xo
Alison

82 Comments

  1. Katie Jaeger 3 years ago

    Awesome post, Alison. You are such a gift to so many people. Keep on keep on’ girlfriend!

  2. Emily 3 years ago

    i loved every single word of this. sincerely, thanks for sharing.

  3. Katie 3 years ago

    This was awesome! Thank you thank you for your honesty & sharing! As a newer blogger it is great to know that bigger blogs still battle stuff. And I hear you on getting your feelings hurt not coming to a party or following on IG 🙂 big hearts get big bruises

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      HAHAH I love that! I’m totally adopting that! Thank you!

  4. Kelly 3 years ago

    You are such a wonder woth whatever you do. This is truly fantastic, and I wish you ALL the best in 2015!!

  5. Ashley 3 years ago

    This is a good word!

  6. Bethany 3 years ago

    I just wanted to say thanks for writing that really long post. It resonated with me on tons of levels, but mainly how setting goals helped blow up your business. Thanks for inspiring me to get my act together and write some of my own damn goals! xo Bethany

  7. Sarah 3 years ago

    I really appreciate your vulnerability and realness. I’ve been following you on ig since this summer and think you’re pretty fantastic. You are inspiring and authentic, I like that about you. Thanks for sharing.

  8. Tiffany migdat 3 years ago

    Loved this! I can relate to so much. Going to therapy was a huge turning point in my life too and #8 was a major factor for me too! My therapist used to always say you are a human being not a human doing. Congrats on such a great year and for inspiring so many people including me!

  9. Jessica 3 years ago

    Thanks so much for sharing this, Alison! This post has so many reminders and so much inspiration for me to remember what is really important.

    I was lucky enough to get to hear your “Awesome Tools for Awesomeness” speech at Bright Night Event and you helped me out there too.

    Keep doing what you are doing! You are amazing at what you do 🙂

    Love ya!
    Jessica

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      AW thank you so much! Bright Night was definitely one of the best parts of 2014 for me! Thank you for being a part of it!

  10. I love this so much. SO much! I tend to get myself all wrapped up in the bad stuff going on around me that I dont take the time to be me. I know that might not make sense but to me your words tonight helped me not have my own breakdown because I took the time to sit and read it. Thank you!

  11. Vee 3 years ago

    Love every single piece of advice! Thanks for sharing! Xoxo

  12. Em 3 years ago

    I think the biggest key to the sustainability of any kind of large-scale blogging endeavor lies in being kind to yourself this way, and allowing yourself latitude to change and grow over time. Not only that, but bonus – while you certainly don’t owe anyone this kind of disclosure, it does magnificent things for getting readers deeply invested in you so that they will stick with you no matter how your breadth or pace of content alters over time. Generally, I’m a fan of thoughtful disclosure. Not only does it make me like people more, but I think it’s just a smart move in the long run if you want to still be around in 5 years. You go, Lady.

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      Love that insight! thank you so much. It’s the long slow growth that I’m going for yes?! But you said it so eloquently!

  13. Kat Green 3 years ago

    Hi Alison. I read like a maniac. (Not like a literary critic or anything. Just like a glutton for a good story). I adore witty people who know how to tell a tale. I have followed you avidly since the old “She blogs, she blogs” days, and every post has been sheer brilliance. It’s one of those things that defies logic. I wouldn’t be able to say what, exactly is so dazzling. If pressed, I’d say it’s your talent for getting at the truth, with a great flair for fun. As your brand sky-rockets, it becomes more and more interesting to read about what makes you tick. I hope you’ll stick with the long essay format as your career gains momentum. Smart girl, indeed, to recognize that you don’t owe “your public” anything you don’t choose to hand out. There’s a difference between a willingness to serve and a need to please. The former is a huge, grounding strength, and the latter will crush you like an indifferent garlic press. You’re the boss of your gifts, and you get to call the shots.

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      Your insight is always so amazing! Thank you so much for your support and love and sweet words!

  14. Muyly miller 3 years ago

    Loved this, I was one of those that watched your viral video, ‘invest in people who invest in you’ and I loved it. I got some good info from your EA as well a while back via email also. Great job on all you do, I admire your passion and motivation. I’m in the process of rebranding as one cohesive…something! And it’s a lot of work! Here’s to 2015, lady!

  15. Ashbabe 3 years ago

    I just have to say that I have loved following you through IG and your blog this last year. I can relate to so many of the things you post about and always feel better that I’m not the only mildly crazy person out there that has the same thoughts/feelings. Thank you for keeping it real and just being you!

  16. Rachel 3 years ago

    Alison, you are great. I loved reading this. I’m sharing this with other blogger friends bc you have golden nuggets of wisdom here and so much resonated with me. And you write really well!

  17. Melissa 3 years ago

    i thoroughly enjoyed this post!!! Your honesty is so refreshing. I can relate to so much. If only we could do it all!

  18. Tosha...hello! 3 years ago

    I loved reading this. I fully support you writing more. You have a way with words that makes my own thoughts on these matters make more sense…this is my therapy. xoxo

  19. Nicole 3 years ago

    I know you’re super busy so I won’t write you the essay of a thank you that I could write. But just know that every good thing you do (or write) spreads the love and lifts people up! You help us gain confidence and by being so real, we feel like we can be ourselves and that it’s enough. So thank you.

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      Thank you so much! Ive made it a priority to never be too busy for praise 🙂 haha bless you!

  20. Jessie Huff 3 years ago

    Allison,

    Reading your blog and watching your life peeks on Instagram have been so inspiring to a fellow mom and entrepreneur. You’ve helped remind me that moms can have fun and be awesome all while trying to build their own brand and company! I look forward to watching you become even more successful and awesome!

  21. Brittany 3 years ago

    This is, hands down, one of THE best blog posts I’ve ever read. Thank you!

  22. Megan 3 years ago

    This post made me cry? In the best way, if there is such a thing? Thank you for being so open & honest about your struggles & lessons you’ve learned. So many times, you speak straight to my heart. That sounds cheesy, but whatever, it’s true. Basically I just kind of love you & what you’re doing.

    xoxo-
    Megan

    • Megan 3 years ago

      Actually, I just kind of love you & WHO YOU’RE BEING. :-*

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      I’m so into cheesy! It’s my favorite thing these days! Thank you so much!

  23. Melanie Burk 3 years ago

    Oh I love you. This post is so sincere. So beautifully written, and so perfect. I am so proud of you for being brave and writing about the pretty, and also the not so pretty aspects of persuing your dreams. 2014 was a big year for me and a lot of tears were shed for other reasons…. We are all figuring it out bit by bit, and I think you are doing a pretty great job. thank you for being an angel and so so AMAZING in my life, as well as the funniest person I know. xoxo

  24. Caro 3 years ago

    Thank you so much for this post! I’m starting a business myself at the moment and I can relate so well to what you’ve said. Here’s to 2015 – I can’t wait to see what it has in store for you! Thanks for all the inspiration, always. And the honesty. <3

  25. Deb Peare 3 years ago

    Thank you for sharing!! So grateful I started following you!!!

  26. Jodi 3 years ago

    I asked for a sign today as I was rocking back and forth whimpering like sad case, I did look at myself in the mirror as I sobbed so perhaps a vain sad case! When I finished I decided I needed to wander the stationery isles looking for pretty items I really don’t need….and every way I looked, each book cover stated boldly “dreams come true”, “believe in the unbelievable”….all cliches I’m sure but I took hold of those signs came home, started watching true detective, started drooling over Matthew McConaughey and peeking through instagram feeds leading me to this post. I read every word, speaking back to you through my screen, nodding and high five-ing you all the way from the land down under. After I finished I felt I got the sign I so greatly needed….thankyou for sharing and being so open and as you so perfectly wrote in #6 of your rad blog post, you were my angel today. I am so grateful I read this today and for you being part of social media thus inadvertently being in my life, how lucky am I! Now for more M. McConaughey, alright, alright allllllllright

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      Now I’m crying thanks a lot! Oh man I’m so glad your day is better. And I’m SO SO Glad Matthew was also involved I feel honored! Thank you for sharing and reading! So much love.

  27. Joana Costa 3 years ago

    I loved reading this too Alison, and I love following you on IG. You always make me smile, sometimes laugh out loud too. You are so real and honest and easy to relate to. Keep up what you are doing but most importantly, continue being who you are because you are so good at it. Ha!

  28. Dorottya 3 years ago

    Hi there, Great article!! Many thanks Alison ♥ I’ve seen some pics of your Instagram profile in the “suggested posts”and became a new follower only a few days ago, and I was wondering: who is that woman behind The Alison Show? So I’ve read this super awesome post and feel that it’s so honest and friendly that I’d like to stay and keep following your IG profile. 🙂 Wishing you a wonderful 2015!! Kindly, Dorottya

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      aw well thank you! and welcome to the party!

  29. Lynden 3 years ago

    Oh em gee. I’m pretty sure I could have wrote this post. Well, minus all the parts about having your own online empire and all…but my family likes all my Facebook photos and that’s sort of the same thing, right?! No? Oh. Well, anyhow… It’s insane the amount of similarities going on between us regarding said nervous breakdown, anxiety, panic attacks for months, therapy, friends swooping in like angels to help with my four little babes and bringing me meals when I couldn’t remember that I needed to feed said babes, ha that happened…but AMEN for remembering that we were in there somewhere and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, right? And now here I am pouring it all out in the comments section of your blog post. Wait, did THAT just happen?! I guess so. But because I also struggle between to share and not to share and have yet to do so with my own little circle of people, I’ll do so with yours and feel like I’m getting it off my chest a bit too. So thanks for listening, or reading, or neither if you never do. But it was good for me and that’s enough. Hope you’re doing better with all your ‘stuff’ and that 2015 is a year full of health, wealth and success!

    Best,
    Lynden

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      Because sometimes we just gotta get it out there and oh my gosh remembering to feed the children is super hard!! Good thing they can talk and say things like, “mom give me food” oy vey! THanks for pouring! thanks for reading, we got this, most of this, right? haha xo

  30. EHayes 3 years ago

    Love. So many similarities going on over here in my life – and not just the panic attacks and breakdowns. I actually was thinking the other day thoughts along the lines of being not doing, as I’ve wrapped myself into the “mom” role for the last 3 years, and didn’t even realize it until I was crippled by constant anxiety. And I never understood those people who were “i lost myself, because i gave it all to my kids” except I’m a shining example. 2015 for me is balance, thriving in what I enjoy and being who I want to be. This was a great post and I think so many people can relate.

  31. anna richey 3 years ago

    I adore you. You so inspire me. Thank you for these words!

  32. Lindsay 3 years ago

    This hit home for me, 100%. I’d love to know what books you read that helped you, you mentioned some business and other books in #1.

    Love reading/watching everything you do!

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      YES! So I LOVE LOVE LOVE You are a Badass, love it. And I also love the podcast Smart Passive INcome, I also read Crush It and the Lean Start Up and others I know I’m forgetting! I should do a round-up of books soon! I just ordered the Miracle MOrning after hearing the author on a podcast and I can’t wait to read that!

  33. Brooke 3 years ago

    What a great post. You are not alone in this. I think so many of us pleasers and over achievers find out in our 30’s, or when we have kids, or when the volume of what we have to do is just so great that we cannot resort to our old ways to get past the anxiety and push to the ‘other side’ of a situation where we’ve really overextended ourselves yet pleased our people. There is a breaking point where this doesn’t work anymore, and that’s not how we can measure success anymore. I hit a similar breaking point a couple of years ago where I was crying so much and had so much anxiety. Walking away from a stressful job, and therapy (esp the therapy) helped a ton. Now, I’m still building back up to a comfortable place and pace. I definitely lost some of myself by giving up what I was doing, but am slowing finding my way back. Happy 2015 to you!

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      thank you so much for sharing that! I think you’re so right! happy 2015 to you as well!

  34. Miranda 3 years ago

    You’re the best! You had such an incredible year, and stretched yourself in so many ways. It was incredible to see your journey, and I appreciate your openness sharing the ups and downs. You really are an inspiration. Not just your dancing, or your parties, or your cookies, even though all those things are amazing and fun. You– just Alison with the Moxie to do the things that you love and share them with the world, are awesome. But you already knew that, didn’t you! 🙂

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      aw thank you so much! sometimes we know things and forget them still, yes?!

  35. emily 3 years ago

    Thanks for being so awesome and honest and open. Your blog and cookie class brightened my 2014!! Let us readers know if we can do anything for YOU!

  36. Tiffany Rueckert 3 years ago

    You nailed it, girl. Loved your post so much that I had to grab my notebook out of my purse and physically take notes. The thought party in your head is just as lovely as the dance party at the club. Keep it up, friend.

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      wow! what an amazing compliment! thank you!

  37. Mariah 3 years ago

    I sincerely love your outlook and your passion! I too want to embrace more of me in this new year. Thanks for the inspiration.

  38. Tristen 3 years ago

    What you are offering to the world is unique, positive and important. Thank you for being authentic to who you are.

  39. Jackie 3 years ago

    So, Alison, this is weird and all, but, I think I love you.
    What a great article! I’m so happy I took the 5 minutes to read it, because it’s going to be running through my mind the rest of the day.

    Thank you girrrrl!!

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      No because I mean it when I say i love you! haha thank you!

  40. Julie Gallagher 3 years ago

    I only found your blog late last year, but I totally love tuning into your “channel”. I especially enjoy how you have made it all about the things YOU love and that you are letting people put you in a box. p.s. the dancing and lying on the table cracks me up! And makes my day that you don’t take yourself too seriously and know how to have fun! All the best for 2015 and I can’t wait to see what you get up to!

  41. Dana James 3 years ago

    Love you Alison! Wish we saw more of each other!

  42. Naomi 3 years ago

    I so completely needed to read this, so thank you for writing it! You being You has been a gift to me in recent months. You have inspired me, cheered me up, and entertained me frequently through my own ongoing mental breakdown. Social media is a double edged sword for me, but following your feed is always the best.

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      Thank you so much! Yes social media can be the absolute WORST so I appreciate so much that I’ve been at all helpful!

  43. Kate 3 years ago

    I love this. I get that email guilt and it’s just like … why? Half of the time I know it’s not even a personalized email, but I hate the idea of not responding on the off chance there’s a nice girl who is probably an under-paid intern on the other side. I love your advice though — I need to take that to heart in 2015. Happy New Year!

  44. Ashmae 3 years ago

    My favorite thing I’ve read this year so far. Thank you!

  45. Kenna 3 years ago

    As a former panic attacker I am ashamed to say I was almost (ok, really) relieved to hear you had a nervous breakdown in 2014… I’m terrible, I know, please forgive me- seriously. I’ve been following you most of ’14 and I’m just like holy shit this girl is non-stop and also has kids and why can’t I do even half of this without having massive anxiety and pull-the-car-over-the-world-is-caving-in panic attacks?!! I’m so extremely excited to hear you speak at BASH, when I heard you were coming I was borderline happy-tears.

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      HAHAHAHAAH I’ve been mentioning that anxiety all year! hahaha i’m fully aware I’m nuts! can’t wait to meet at bash! You’re too sweet! xo

  46. ashlee norton 3 years ago

    I love this post!! And I’m with ya on the counseling!! I wish everyone could/would go to counseling!! I love it!!!

  47. Lacey 3 years ago

    I can totally relate this!!! As a business owner who just shut down my online business because I too couldn’t do it all! I was getting burnt out and feeling like a terrible mom. I realized I am meant do be a business owner and plan to re open with the intent of hiring out and so much more ! I’m so happy you were able to figure it all out and get help before you had to shut it all down! You rock and have so many fans that LOVE you! Keep up the good work!

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      AW mama good for you for being able to take a break and regroup! it’s so hard!! but going to be so amazing! best of luck to you and thank you!

  48. Christa Mae 3 years ago

    I found one of your cookie videos on YouTube earlier this year, which led me to your blog and I’ve been obsessively reading ever since. I have never commented until now, but I really think you deserve to know how much your blog (and especially this post) has impacted my life. I can relate to you on so many levels and I get such a sense of fullness and contentment when I read your posts, because I feel like my life is on a similar path as yours; I just haven’t quite gotten there yet. But your honesty and vulnerability puts a lot of things into perspective for me and is helping me laser focus my goals. It might be weird for a stranger to be telling you all this, but it’s the truth and you should know that you are inspiring people every day! You are doing #6 with a fierceness.

    Also, this post is literally the best thing I’ve read all year 😉

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      Alison Faulkner 3 years ago

      Wow!! thank you so much! I love hearing that and appreciate it so much! Really, you have no idea. Thank you so much for telling me and commenting! I can’t wait to see what you’re up to! xo

  49. Sarah 3 years ago

    This is like, my favorite post ever. I don’t know how I didn’t see it until now. But everything you said is spot on. I also ventured to a therapist for the first time in 2014 (still going, because like you say, it’s awesome) and then the other day I realized that there was free therapy at BYU for students and I was kicking myself about not taking advantage of that (a decade ago). Ha! I just have to say though, I think you’re really awesome and I love how real and genuine you are. Other bloggers who only post fancy parties or pretty treats are only interesting for so long. But being personal and real is what keeps people coming back and makes us feel like you’re our friend. Thanks for being awesome and keepin’ it real!

  50. Ariel 2 years ago

    Came here from the “I’m on your team” post. Love how encouraging you are by your own experience, that is so real and genuine 🙂 Stay hot xx

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