This is a post all about how we lost our job and I no longer have money for any of these adorable items, but also how I’m totally ok with it! If that interests you…read on!
On the last day of November, my husband who has never been unemployed in his life, was let go due to large-scale company changes. We had a feeling it might happen–the company in a matter of days–was suddenly under duress. So, he went to work on a Friday morning knowing there was a 50/50 it would be his last day there, and about 2 hours later he came home and said, “Well, I’m a free man.”
*Please note, we’ve lost our income, it’s Christmas time, and I’m pregnant!
For most people this would be like, the worst thing in the world. But my husband is also a part-time media musician, which means he composes and masters songs for TV shows, short films, radio ads, recording artists and has even scored an independent motion picture. I had been telling him to take the plunge and quit his job, because music is his bliss, and his job was nothing more than a job. And I am not biased when I say he is mind-blowingly talented. Every musician I’ve ever met is wowed by his skills.
But, with all that said, he had kept his day job for the fantastic insurance, flexible hours, and steady pay-check. Music is a risky business, yes?
Within hours of being let go a competing company called and offered him a seasonal, but extremely well paying-position. Meaning we would be able to make more money in 4-5 months as he’d make in a year at his old job, BUT we’d have to move for those 4-5 months (and I’ll add still no insurance).
So then we had a decision. He could either go work for this other company (and take me, Gigi and a week old baby with him) and make a lot of money…but continue delaying his true passion. Or he could dive into music.
So duh, his wife who thinks that any sum of money over $1000 is basically Monopoly money encouraged him to follow his heart.
After a few months of back and forth, I’m happy to say, we are now fully self-employed.
I’d be lying if I said the fact we lost our AMAZING insurance while I was pregnant was easy, or the fact that we essentially have no steady income doesn’t give me a second of panic every now and then. However, I have been blessed with an overwhelming feeling of peace and faith in my phenomenal man since the moment those words, “I’m free” dripped off his lips.
We have worked hard to get out of debt, and we don’t have any HUGE payments other than our mortgage, so between what I make from my odd jobs blogging and my mobiles, and his odd jobs and music, we really are just fine.
I used gift cards and handmade gifts for ALL of Christmas. We spent about $20 on gifts for Ginger, and no money on each other. We used Christmas money from my grandparents to buy most of the supplies I needed to start selling my mobiles again.
We used to eat out ALL the time (especially because I was working so much). But now we eat out maybe once a week, and do so on the cheap. I play with Gigi in the mornings, and Eric (my man) takes care of Gigi in the afternoons. We eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner together as a family at home. I cannot believe how much closer we are because of it. Gigi and I make dinner while daddy works in his office (today she insisted on eating a raw onion and pretended to like it until she started crying with disgust) and then after dinner Eric does the dishes.
We put Ginger to bed together, give her more kisses than any two-year-old in the world. And then Eric and I usually work the rest of the night. We go to bed around 1am, and our mornings are late and slow and full of playing as a family in our bed and tickle sessions with Gigi.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen Eric happier, he works incessantly on his music, and talks non-stop about how cute Ginger is.
And so, with all that said, buying clothing for things like Alt Summit, or because I’m feeling Spring-y this week, aren’t really in the budget. In fact, nothing is in the budget! But it’s so crazy how spending is almost like a switch you can turn off and on. I used to walk around the house and say, “AH! I HATE THESE CHAIRS!” or “I NEED A NEW RUG OR I WILL DIE!” But now I just walk around the house feeling so incredibly lucky we have a house, feeling grateful that we can pay for our house, and that when Ginger asks for food there is always, ALWAYS something for her to eat.
We are so blessed that we both can make money with our random creative talents. Even if it’s not all that much money.
Today I had to go to the mall, a place I don’t usually go unless I have a return or a gift card. And I saw so many amazing things I wanted for Ginger and the new baby! I left Gap Kids without buying ONE SINGLE clearance item, because I have loads of fabric and the ability to make clothes.
So I decided to put together a Spring wish-list for Gigi. I assembled two outfits, and I love them both! And I don’t even really feel all that sad I’m not buying any of the items on the list. Because really, money is just money, and stuff is just stuff.
I’ve got those two, and healthy lil’ man in belly, so who really needs all that much money or stuff?
Not this girl. And it’s actually really wonderful.
I hope all is well with you and yours.